Let’s be honest about it. Life is scary. I know,
you’re supposed to be a grown up and you’re not supposed to be afraid of
anything. But at 3 in the morning, when you’re laying awake, unable to
sleep because you’re worrying about where you’re going to get the money
for the house payment, life can be frightening.
sometimes, it can be very useful to admit that. Most of the time, we
keep a “stiff upper lip.” We try to maintain a positive attitude, to
think that things will always get better. And there is much value in
that. But there come times when you just need to deal with all the
nagging little negative thoughts that build up as a result of your
attempt to be positive all the time.
You know you have
doubts all the time. You’re often afraid to admit them even to yourself,
but they’re there. They eat away at you because you never let them out.
Actually, negative feelings are healthy. They temper your enthusiasm
with a dose of reality, and remind you that there are risks in
everything you do. They help you remember to be careful. But if they
build up inside of you, and are never dealt with, then they can
So every now and then, when you’re feeling
particularly blue, it’s time to have an out-an-out bitching and moaning
session. And if you raise such an event to the status of a ritual, that
is, if you intentionally decide to do it, it can be very productive and
beneficial to you.
Give it a try. Sit down and think
about one of the problems in your life. Really dwell on it. Think of all
the reasons why it makes your hopes and dreams and goals impossible to
accomplish. In your mind, let your problem put a negative slant on every
aspect of your life. Then, start having some fun with it. Start with a
little exaggeration. Add some melodrama, and maybe a little obscenity.
Say to yourself something like, “The truth is, I can’t stand your little
business venture. I hate you for even thinking of it. I thought things
were fine just the way they were. I’m really too lazy to bother with all
of it. I think I’ll just eat a lot of chocolate and get
You get the idea. Really revel in your misery to the
point where it becomes funny. And you’ll notice that your energy level
starts to go up. Because negativity is energy, and it can get you moving
when you let it come out. Have you ever seen a healthy two year old who
lacks energy? Of course not. Because two year olds know something that
we have forgotten -- the value of a good tantrum.
keep your doubts and negative feelings bottled up inside, they
eventually gain control of you. But letting them out in a good tantrum
puts you back in the driver’s seat. Acknowledging your problems and your
doubts gives you control over them. Getting furious about them will give
you the energy you need to overcome them.
So every now and
then, think negative. It could have a very positive influence on your
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